We generally feel comfortable to deal with most of the people around us. Yet, there are some types of people, who don’t understand us and it is hard to communicate with them. But still we have no choice, and had to deal with them. Often we face verbal abuse, embarrassment, insults and experience sense of guilt. All in all it is difficult to manage with such people.
These crooked type of people are around us and makes our life miserable and unpleasant.
Look around and you will find them in offices, neighborhoods, in relations, and families. How to deal with them, we cannot avoid them totally, yet we can find some ways to deal with them.
Most of the times our approach depends on the types of listeners, as kids require more gentle, younger people demand focused, and older people require influential approach.
For now let us concentrate on the approach and not on their ages while dealing with them. Let us characterize these difficult people based on their approach towards us or the situation.
IDENTIFY THEM BASED ON THEIR TRAITS / CHARACTERISTICS
Their identification makes it easier for us to deal with them, as we label their personality type, by categorizing them.
I have always co-related the type of people with cruel predator animals and birds to make their characteristics more distinct in my mind.
Traits of Crooked People-(I call them Hyena type)
-They are Multi-faced.
-They are Controlling other people, and are abusive in nature.
-They are Controlling Major decisions, around us.
– They are Fearless, selfish & they like to Play blame games.
We need to be ready to deal with such people. They often are authoritarian and don’t want others to come in their territory or comfort zone.
WAYS TO DEAL WITH THEM
What If you show that you have identified their type, does it help?
It makes the matter even worse than better, instead you need to find ways to work around them, by keeping yourself in a better position.
-1-Distraction, Inception, and emotional hatred, attract their attention. By using these you can show your unpredictable nature. Usually our monotonous and simple nature attracts abuses and allows others to take control over us.
-2- If you want to discuss things with them, then discuss solution along-with the problem. Even then you need to be ready to take the responsibility of your own decisions. You can always say that you received guidance from superiors by keeping them informed.
-3- Use Persuasion techniques in groups by choosing like minded people, or through a person close to them.
-4- Use Manipulation techniques by stating hypothetical situations to show negative impacts of certain decisions.
-5-change your interaction level with them. You can show equal level of communication instead of totally surrendering to them. Self-esteem is necessary because it shows your strong knowledge base.
-6-Use group or people with similar perception to borrow ideas while dealing with them.
-7- Use trigger phase during certain critical situations to put forth your positive ideas in the groups. You can always list out the best ways to tackle critical issues and present them when the right time comes.
-8-They love to build their image slowly in the society. Push such people to the utmost limit by triggering their odd responses in front of all. This is the way to expose them.
-9-Stay in groups, if crooked person find you isolated they keep on targeting you.
-10-Although crooked person use immoral ways to reach their goals, still they feel ashamed if you show your honest, sincere, & pleasant personality type. Build your clean image, you can do this by controlling your responses.
-11-Keep yourself busy, by working on your hobbies and interests. It helps to build a barrier and boost your confidence in dealing with them.
-12-Without confrontation and responding to intimidation, you can ask others to intervene and settle issues with them. It is easy for a third person to handle the situation and bring things under control. Sometimes small misunderstandings cause big troubles.
-13-Keep record of major situations and your responses. A simple thing like this boosts your confidence and allows you to handle situation better in the near future.
-14-Be ready to follow value based lifelong learning. We don’t want to loose our true nature and identity.
-15- And finally, do you know when we are in total control of our emotions?. It’s when we are faking them. Remember, you show your anger when kids watch television for long hours, you raise your voice and bring face expressions to show your anger, that is the best way to control and handle emotions.
Be unpredictable !!! so no one can guess your response easily.
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